Our counsellors provide a caring and supportive environment to help couples find a way through any difficulties you may be facing in their relationship.
What can I expect in Couples Counselling?
Once you’ve made an appointment you will be seen by a trained counsellor who will ask questions about you and your partner, your relationship and what you hope to get out of counselling. At this stage you will also talk about the best times for your sessions, and you will discuss the cost of counselling.
The counsellor acts as a bridge to help each partner connect to the other’s world. Helping couples communicate with more emotional honesty and finding ways of talking about the ‘difficult stuff’ safely is an important element of Couples therapy.
The therapist might make links between past experiences of significant people, usually family members, and their influence on present feelings, behaviour and difficulties with their partner. When two people form a relationship, they bring their individual family cultures, their life histories and experiences, beliefs and expectations into the new relationship. Couples therapy helps couples to understand each other and themselves, and explains how they can meet each other’s hidden emotional needs by making them conscious.
When an issue or problem has been explored and understood, the counsellor will help the couple decide what changes can be realistically implemented to make their relationship happier and more fulfilling, we will negotiate your differences and help you both gain clarity of what you want from your relationship.
However you experience relationship counselling, you can feel reassured that it’s confidential and non-judgemental.
How can Couples Counselling help me?
It really depends what you want to get out of it, but it’s rare that you will leave Headspace without feeling a positive change.
For some people, we transform their relationships and their lives; for others we help them solve a specific problem and help them move forward with more confidence and less anxiety.
If you feel you are going round in circles, or are afraid to talk about a certain issue in case it makes things worse, or have nothing left to say to each other, then it might be the right time to try counselling.
People often find it more difficult to start couples counselling than individual therapy. They worry that telling the truth about how they feel will upset or anger their partner and make the situation even worse. When talking about their innermost hopes and fears, they are concerned that their partner might be dismissive or disagree with them. People also worry that the counsellor will take their partner’s side in any disagreement.
A Couples counsellor has a responsibility to both individuals and the focus of the therapy is their relationship. Both partners will be given equal ‘air time’ and understanding. Confidential individual sessions are often offered to help the counsellor understand each partner’s perspective and to clarify what they both want. This enables the Couples therapy to be more focused and effective.
Each session usually lasts 50 minutes, and your counsellor will ask you questions so that you can talk about what’s going on and how you feel. They may offer you advice or ideas to try at home.
If you don’t like to talk a lot then they might try different things like drawing or mapping out your thoughts. It all depends on what’s right for you.
Even if things don’t change, counselling may help you to see things in a different way or make the decision that’s right for you to move forward. Just talking to someone who isn’t involved in the relationship can help you.
People are genuinely surprised when we start working together – they think that we’re going to tell them what to do, but it’s not like that. They may come in feeling nervous and apprehensive but once we have met a few times, they start to enjoy it. It’s a brave move to come to counselling, but for almost everyone, it’s one of the best moves they’ve made. See what couples say about us in our Heads & Tales section.